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Where's the Mother?: Stories from a Transgender Dad

Where's the Mother?: Stories from a Transgender Dad

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50% OFF SALE! Discount will apply automatically at checkout. Trevor MacDonald In a time when to most people “pregnancy” automatically means “motherhood,” what is it like to get pregnant, give...

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Trevor MacDonald

In a time when to most people “pregnancy” automatically means “motherhood,” what is it like to get pregnant, give birth, and breastfeed a child all while being an out transgender man?

When Trevor MacDonald decided to start a family, he knew that the world was going to have questions for him. As a transgender man in a gay relationship, Trevor has gone through the journeys of pregnancy, childbirth, and nursing all while exploring (and sometimes defending) his role as a trans dad. Trevor and his partner tackle all the questions new parents are familiar with (Should we feed our baby breast milk or formula? Should we have a hospital or home birth?) and others perhaps unfamiliar (How can a man cope with gender dysphoria when going through such female-coded rituals as childbirth and breastfeeding? How can a person breastfeed after having had chest masculinization surgery? How do we find donor milk to supplement our own modest milk supply?).

Luckily for the reader, Trevor explains his own answers to these questions with grace and humour. His stories convey the intimate and sometimes surprising realities of the transgender parenting experience. This memoir is a book about being a breastfeeding parent and a transgender man, and the many beautiful, moving, and difficult ways these two identities collide. “Where’s the Mother?” is a memoir like no other.

Paperback, 280 pages
Published by Trans Canada Press (May 2016)
ISBN-13: 9780991964505
Dimensions: 15.24 x 1.63 x 22.86 cm

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